LOVE AND LETTING GO
Michael Ewetuga
Love comes in different color and shape and so people talk of love at sight and growing
to love someone. Sometimes you cannot put your fingers on why you love someone,
you just love her/him.
I have gone through life’s journey and I have met a lot of women some that my heart
melts for and I believed I was in love with. Sometimes you don’t realize the power of
love until you encounter it, and sometimes you love someone so much you come to the
realization that you never loved before.
I have seen women that are so beautiful that they will almost make your eyes pop out of
their sockets, women that make your heart beat so fast and so loud you will swear that
your heart is about to drop. I have seen women who wielded so much power because
the real man with power is under the control of these women, and they will do anything
just to prove both their manhood and their love for these women.
I don’t know what I’m going to do about love because it seems like I’m destined not to
have an everlasting one which leads one to the question whether love do die. Someone
once told me that love is nothing but lot of heartaches and headaches; I have also been
told that love is overrated.
I wonder if anyone has ever succeeded in defining the word love and what is
responsible for it. Words, some writers have contended cannot describe love. I told my
best friend how I felt about a certain lady and he told me it must be love, like I need to be
told.
Even the bible tried to define love, some of the criteria specified in the bible have been a
big hurdle for men to cross, love is patience, love is enduring, love accommodates, love
is kind and other stuff like that.
Love has also been put in different categories, such as unconditional love, unselfish
love, impeccable love and what have you. Love, another person contended is an
abstract, yet some people contended there was no such thing as love. I have talked
extensively to people from different background, especially when I was in the university,
I wanted to know so very much what love is, and so I asked questions, I asked people
how they could tell that they were in love. There were as many answers as there were
respondents and yet I never did get a clear picture of love.
I have listened to different musicians try to define love, there was even a Nigerian music
that I love to listen to then “lovu wan tin tin” I don’t know exactly what the guy was trying to
say but I do enjoyed the rhythm. I have listen to Lionel Richie, Marvin Gaye, Anita Baker,
Whitney Houston who I believe is exhibiting true love for her husband despite people
calling her stupid, Freddie Jackson and the rest of them talk about love. I cut off the light
and played these people’s music and more, listening to them talk about love.
When I was in secondary school we read ROMEO AND JULIET and that kind of became
the baseline as to what love should be. I knew growing up that I might never find love
because that was a standard that is very difficult to meet. I could imagine a modern
Romeo dead because he died drinking poison so he could be with his girlfriend in
heaven or wherever dead people go to and I could visualize what the modern Juliet
would have done. She probably would cry because she loves this guy so very much,
she might attempt to jump into his grave and enjoined the people there to please bury
her with his body, I have my doubt as to whether she would drink the poison even if
same was given by detectives to her as evidence of course of death.
In this modern day, people do exhibit feelings for each other that they and others
regarded as love. I know I have exhibited these feelings to different women in various
stages of my life; there are women I could point to and say I once loved these women
and they will swear to high heavens that they love me too. I am beginning to believe that
maybe I did not really love until recently. Now the crux of the matter is do you switch love
on and off, can you really let someone you love go?
When you break up from someone you love and you kept expecting the phone to ring at
any moment, when you keep checking your e-mail and instant messages and offline
when you visit the toilet so frequently that people start asking you if you were ok, when
you lose appetite and you just don’t want to eat, when you switch off your music so you
could listen to what is going on in your head, when you start losing weight simply
because you broke up with your lady/man, is that situation enough to assure you that
whatever it was you felt for that person is love?
When you love can you let go, can you let something stand between you and love and
thus your happiness, do you let society dictate the situation that makes you put love to
the back and do other things simply because those things do not run in the same
direction with the love you have or do you just say to hell with ambition and choose love
and be happy, how much sacrifice should one make for love, does love top all or is love
slaughtered on the alter of ambition and other things we consider necessary in life?
When you remove your lady/guy’s screen name from your buddy list, when you remove
all mails she/he has ever sent to you, when you remove her/his phone number from
your phone and yet you can’t stop thinking about her/him, when the tears drop despite
the fact that you’re trying to be a man, when your stomach grumbles because you have
lost love, when your bowels open up because your body is rejecting whatever decision
you took with regard to your love, when every word has to be repeated several times
before you could take them in simply because you’re walking around like a corpse,
when you say, well to hell with my ambition I’m just going to stay with my baby and be
happy, when you think you might not be able breathe if you don’t call your baby and tell
her/him that you love her/him more than money, job, positions and all other things in
this world, when you place your girl/man over and above all things, when all that matter
is him/ her when you realize this one last time you can’t say goodbye, then I think you
should know, beyond doubt that you’re in love or are you?
There is only one way to find out, give all things away and be with your baby just like
Jesus told the rich man to give all away and follow him, if you find it comfortable to do
this and you are still happy, then it is clear beyond doubt to my mind that you’re in love.
If you choose those other things and you tell your baby goodbye, then we can ask you
when you say you love her/him, “what’s love got to do with it?” if it is love it should
conquer all as they say.
Michael Ewetuga
Love comes in different color and shape and so people talk of love at sight and growing
to love someone. Sometimes you cannot put your fingers on why you love someone,
you just love her/him.
I have gone through life’s journey and I have met a lot of women some that my heart
melts for and I believed I was in love with. Sometimes you don’t realize the power of
love until you encounter it, and sometimes you love someone so much you come to the
realization that you never loved before.
I have seen women that are so beautiful that they will almost make your eyes pop out of
their sockets, women that make your heart beat so fast and so loud you will swear that
your heart is about to drop. I have seen women who wielded so much power because
the real man with power is under the control of these women, and they will do anything
just to prove both their manhood and their love for these women.
I don’t know what I’m going to do about love because it seems like I’m destined not to
have an everlasting one which leads one to the question whether love do die. Someone
once told me that love is nothing but lot of heartaches and headaches; I have also been
told that love is overrated.
I wonder if anyone has ever succeeded in defining the word love and what is
responsible for it. Words, some writers have contended cannot describe love. I told my
best friend how I felt about a certain lady and he told me it must be love, like I need to be
told.
Even the bible tried to define love, some of the criteria specified in the bible have been a
big hurdle for men to cross, love is patience, love is enduring, love accommodates, love
is kind and other stuff like that.
Love has also been put in different categories, such as unconditional love, unselfish
love, impeccable love and what have you. Love, another person contended is an
abstract, yet some people contended there was no such thing as love. I have talked
extensively to people from different background, especially when I was in the university,
I wanted to know so very much what love is, and so I asked questions, I asked people
how they could tell that they were in love. There were as many answers as there were
respondents and yet I never did get a clear picture of love.
I have listened to different musicians try to define love, there was even a Nigerian music
that I love to listen to then “lovu wan tin tin” I don’t know exactly what the guy was trying to
say but I do enjoyed the rhythm. I have listen to Lionel Richie, Marvin Gaye, Anita Baker,
Whitney Houston who I believe is exhibiting true love for her husband despite people
calling her stupid, Freddie Jackson and the rest of them talk about love. I cut off the light
and played these people’s music and more, listening to them talk about love.
When I was in secondary school we read ROMEO AND JULIET and that kind of became
the baseline as to what love should be. I knew growing up that I might never find love
because that was a standard that is very difficult to meet. I could imagine a modern
Romeo dead because he died drinking poison so he could be with his girlfriend in
heaven or wherever dead people go to and I could visualize what the modern Juliet
would have done. She probably would cry because she loves this guy so very much,
she might attempt to jump into his grave and enjoined the people there to please bury
her with his body, I have my doubt as to whether she would drink the poison even if
same was given by detectives to her as evidence of course of death.
In this modern day, people do exhibit feelings for each other that they and others
regarded as love. I know I have exhibited these feelings to different women in various
stages of my life; there are women I could point to and say I once loved these women
and they will swear to high heavens that they love me too. I am beginning to believe that
maybe I did not really love until recently. Now the crux of the matter is do you switch love
on and off, can you really let someone you love go?
When you break up from someone you love and you kept expecting the phone to ring at
any moment, when you keep checking your e-mail and instant messages and offline
when you visit the toilet so frequently that people start asking you if you were ok, when
you lose appetite and you just don’t want to eat, when you switch off your music so you
could listen to what is going on in your head, when you start losing weight simply
because you broke up with your lady/man, is that situation enough to assure you that
whatever it was you felt for that person is love?
When you love can you let go, can you let something stand between you and love and
thus your happiness, do you let society dictate the situation that makes you put love to
the back and do other things simply because those things do not run in the same
direction with the love you have or do you just say to hell with ambition and choose love
and be happy, how much sacrifice should one make for love, does love top all or is love
slaughtered on the alter of ambition and other things we consider necessary in life?
When you remove your lady/guy’s screen name from your buddy list, when you remove
all mails she/he has ever sent to you, when you remove her/his phone number from
your phone and yet you can’t stop thinking about her/him, when the tears drop despite
the fact that you’re trying to be a man, when your stomach grumbles because you have
lost love, when your bowels open up because your body is rejecting whatever decision
you took with regard to your love, when every word has to be repeated several times
before you could take them in simply because you’re walking around like a corpse,
when you say, well to hell with my ambition I’m just going to stay with my baby and be
happy, when you think you might not be able breathe if you don’t call your baby and tell
her/him that you love her/him more than money, job, positions and all other things in
this world, when you place your girl/man over and above all things, when all that matter
is him/ her when you realize this one last time you can’t say goodbye, then I think you
should know, beyond doubt that you’re in love or are you?
There is only one way to find out, give all things away and be with your baby just like
Jesus told the rich man to give all away and follow him, if you find it comfortable to do
this and you are still happy, then it is clear beyond doubt to my mind that you’re in love.
If you choose those other things and you tell your baby goodbye, then we can ask you
when you say you love her/him, “what’s love got to do with it?” if it is love it should
conquer all as they say.
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