MUTUAL SUSPICION BETWEEN AFRICANS AND AFRICAN/AMERICAN
MICHAEL FEMI EWETUGA
I have read a lot about African men, online and offline. If you have not met one, you
would think he’s the devil incarnate. It is unfortunate though that mostly his attackers
are Africans too or should I say African Americans. They have a lot of axes to grouse
with their African brothers, if we agree we are brothers that is, because I have been told
by an African American that she was born in America and so were her parents and as
far as she was concerned she is American. Period.
I have seen in profiles, girls looking for guys and specifically stating that Africans and
particularly Nigerians should not bother to show interest.
Let’s look at some of the accusations that I have come across online regarding the
African man and let’s try to look at these things objectively vis-à-vis our backgrounds.
The first is the issue of swindling, generally referred to as 419 by Nigerians
themselves which has now assumed a global nomenclature. It is so called because
some elements, if not all elements provided for in S. 419 of the NIGERIAN CRIMINAL
CODE are usually present in the conducts of the perpetrators of these shameful act or
analogous to conduct as defined by the law.
Nigeria is a rich country in terms of human and natural resources. Nigerian leaders
have no plans, at least to the best of my knowledge, to make that country one in which
people are provided for. That is another topic all together. Suffice it to say that although
the country is rich the people are poor. Some of these people, like people everywhere
are desirous of going to a country where they could live a more humane life and where
their dreams could be realized. If you have ever traveled to Nigeria what you would see
are people striving everyday in the face of hardship to make a decent living. There are
over 100 million Nigerians, majority of them are honest contrary to what someone
wrote on black voices sometime ago.
There are criminals everywhere and Nigeria is no exception. I have had the opportunity
of reading some of the letters sent by these unscrupulous Nigerians to their targeted
victims of which I am one myself because I do get such letters. While not trying to be
the devil’s advocate, any reasonable and honest person reading those letters would
send them to where they belong, the trash can. However, if you are greedy and you
want fast money, you are a perfect candidate for these fraudulent schemes. To those
who fell victims, search your heart, I say to you without any sense of remorse, that you’
re thieves and if those people are arrested so should you because if you read the
letters and digested them what both of you planned to do if it were to be true is commit
a crime and deprive the people and by extension the country of much needed fund.
Next time you get such letters, read them very well and pay attention to Internet
warnings about such letters, and while you should be ambitious in terms of getting to a
financially stable stage realize the fact that money, more often than not, comes from
hard work and dedication.
That having been said, there are businessmen in Nigeria who are honest people,
people that are into good profitable businesses. If your interest is to invest your hard
earned money to make profits, there are lots of opportunities in Nigeria. There are
businesses you could engage in that would more than double your capital. The only
caveat I wish to enter is that make sure you are doing genuine business and that you
get in contact with genuine businessmen, American embassy can help you in this
wise. Do not contact me because I am not a businessman and I am not putting myself
forward as one and it is not my intention to introduce you to any business, I am just
stating a fact.
That is for those who were swindled or who know someone that was swindled.
If your relationship is romantic then this is for you. An African man is not different from
any man anywhere. A man is a man. If you are looking for a good man to share your life
with, that is who you should look for and a good man is a good man no matter his color
or nationality.
Some American women belief that their men are “dogs” in other words they accuse
American men of playing around. Well I’m sorry to tell you sister, a man that would play
around would play around no matter his color or Nationality. Do not get into a
relationship because of a man’s nationality because that man is just an individual from
a continent that inhabits billions and billions of men and what you get is what you
deserve, try not to get it twisted.
It is the height of hypocrisy to lump all men from a country or from a continent together
because you had a good or rough deal from one or more men from that country or
continent. As a matter of fact, it will be quite foolish to lump two men from the same
family together, after all Cane and Abel were brothers and not alike so was Joseph and
his brothers. It is just like claiming all presidents are like Clinton or Bush. Each
president is an individual with his own programs and charisma; no two individuals are
the same. It is almost a culture in this country to accuse a class because of the act of
one or more person of that class. The fact that a black American robbed you does not
mean all Black Americans or black men are robbers and because you suffered
prejudiced in the hand of a White American doesn’t make all White prejudiced. I have
met good and bad people since I became resident in this country and believe me they
are from different background and color, as a matter of fact I have met good and bad
people from my own country and continent.
It is funny that African Americans could be doing to Africans what they are accusing
Whites of doing to them. I have seen a lot of movies where African Americans accuse
white of looking at them suspiciously despite being good individuals even though there
are some unscrupulous elements within their class. By the same token, why are they
looking at Africans as if we are all bad even though there are good individuals amongst
our class?
We have cultural differences, but that is to be expected just like it should be expected of
anyone from different cultures. The fact that you suffered some bad deals from an
African doesn’t make us all bad.
Every cultural practice has its advantages and disadvantages. In conclusion, my advice
is, if you want to date any man, make sure you love him and that he loves you in return.
Don’t think because the man is from a particular continent he’s better than any other
man.
If I have the time, one of these days, I intend to correct some views about African men,
using Nigerian men as my focus point and let’s see if we’d be able to understand each
other better. I have nothing but love for people of all race and colors in general and for
my African American brothers and sisters in General. I hope we’d one day practice
what we preach and not commit a crime against a race because of its bad eggs.
MICHAEL FEMI EWETUGA
I have read a lot about African men, online and offline. If you have not met one, you
would think he’s the devil incarnate. It is unfortunate though that mostly his attackers
are Africans too or should I say African Americans. They have a lot of axes to grouse
with their African brothers, if we agree we are brothers that is, because I have been told
by an African American that she was born in America and so were her parents and as
far as she was concerned she is American. Period.
I have seen in profiles, girls looking for guys and specifically stating that Africans and
particularly Nigerians should not bother to show interest.
Let’s look at some of the accusations that I have come across online regarding the
African man and let’s try to look at these things objectively vis-à-vis our backgrounds.
The first is the issue of swindling, generally referred to as 419 by Nigerians
themselves which has now assumed a global nomenclature. It is so called because
some elements, if not all elements provided for in S. 419 of the NIGERIAN CRIMINAL
CODE are usually present in the conducts of the perpetrators of these shameful act or
analogous to conduct as defined by the law.
Nigeria is a rich country in terms of human and natural resources. Nigerian leaders
have no plans, at least to the best of my knowledge, to make that country one in which
people are provided for. That is another topic all together. Suffice it to say that although
the country is rich the people are poor. Some of these people, like people everywhere
are desirous of going to a country where they could live a more humane life and where
their dreams could be realized. If you have ever traveled to Nigeria what you would see
are people striving everyday in the face of hardship to make a decent living. There are
over 100 million Nigerians, majority of them are honest contrary to what someone
wrote on black voices sometime ago.
There are criminals everywhere and Nigeria is no exception. I have had the opportunity
of reading some of the letters sent by these unscrupulous Nigerians to their targeted
victims of which I am one myself because I do get such letters. While not trying to be
the devil’s advocate, any reasonable and honest person reading those letters would
send them to where they belong, the trash can. However, if you are greedy and you
want fast money, you are a perfect candidate for these fraudulent schemes. To those
who fell victims, search your heart, I say to you without any sense of remorse, that you’
re thieves and if those people are arrested so should you because if you read the
letters and digested them what both of you planned to do if it were to be true is commit
a crime and deprive the people and by extension the country of much needed fund.
Next time you get such letters, read them very well and pay attention to Internet
warnings about such letters, and while you should be ambitious in terms of getting to a
financially stable stage realize the fact that money, more often than not, comes from
hard work and dedication.
That having been said, there are businessmen in Nigeria who are honest people,
people that are into good profitable businesses. If your interest is to invest your hard
earned money to make profits, there are lots of opportunities in Nigeria. There are
businesses you could engage in that would more than double your capital. The only
caveat I wish to enter is that make sure you are doing genuine business and that you
get in contact with genuine businessmen, American embassy can help you in this
wise. Do not contact me because I am not a businessman and I am not putting myself
forward as one and it is not my intention to introduce you to any business, I am just
stating a fact.
That is for those who were swindled or who know someone that was swindled.
If your relationship is romantic then this is for you. An African man is not different from
any man anywhere. A man is a man. If you are looking for a good man to share your life
with, that is who you should look for and a good man is a good man no matter his color
or nationality.
Some American women belief that their men are “dogs” in other words they accuse
American men of playing around. Well I’m sorry to tell you sister, a man that would play
around would play around no matter his color or Nationality. Do not get into a
relationship because of a man’s nationality because that man is just an individual from
a continent that inhabits billions and billions of men and what you get is what you
deserve, try not to get it twisted.
It is the height of hypocrisy to lump all men from a country or from a continent together
because you had a good or rough deal from one or more men from that country or
continent. As a matter of fact, it will be quite foolish to lump two men from the same
family together, after all Cane and Abel were brothers and not alike so was Joseph and
his brothers. It is just like claiming all presidents are like Clinton or Bush. Each
president is an individual with his own programs and charisma; no two individuals are
the same. It is almost a culture in this country to accuse a class because of the act of
one or more person of that class. The fact that a black American robbed you does not
mean all Black Americans or black men are robbers and because you suffered
prejudiced in the hand of a White American doesn’t make all White prejudiced. I have
met good and bad people since I became resident in this country and believe me they
are from different background and color, as a matter of fact I have met good and bad
people from my own country and continent.
It is funny that African Americans could be doing to Africans what they are accusing
Whites of doing to them. I have seen a lot of movies where African Americans accuse
white of looking at them suspiciously despite being good individuals even though there
are some unscrupulous elements within their class. By the same token, why are they
looking at Africans as if we are all bad even though there are good individuals amongst
our class?
We have cultural differences, but that is to be expected just like it should be expected of
anyone from different cultures. The fact that you suffered some bad deals from an
African doesn’t make us all bad.
Every cultural practice has its advantages and disadvantages. In conclusion, my advice
is, if you want to date any man, make sure you love him and that he loves you in return.
Don’t think because the man is from a particular continent he’s better than any other
man.
If I have the time, one of these days, I intend to correct some views about African men,
using Nigerian men as my focus point and let’s see if we’d be able to understand each
other better. I have nothing but love for people of all race and colors in general and for
my African American brothers and sisters in General. I hope we’d one day practice
what we preach and not commit a crime against a race because of its bad eggs.
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