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FIRST DATE SEX
Michael Ewetuga
When we were born we did not have any contaminated ideas in our heads, according to one of
my lecturers when I was in the university, our minds as babies are “Tabula Rasa”. It doesn’t
matter the color of a baby when you carry them they will smile at you because at that point they
are yet to be told that one color is superior to another or that one race is superior to another or
that one parent is poor or rich or one country more powerful than the other. I guess that is why
Jesus said for us to see the kingdom of God we must be like little children.
As we grow older our parents, brothers, sisters et al will lecture us as to why we should not play
with A or enter the house of B or be free with C. I will not go as much as to say this is baseless
because some human beings are animals. Which parent in his right mind will allow his child to
enter the house of a rapist or a pedophile or a drug addict? Sometimes some of the things
taught to children about certain people are to protect them from sexual predators or people who
could make a mess of their lives by merely associating with them.
There are rules when one is living in this world so as to keep one save from dangerous people,
I don’t see anything wrong in teaching one’s children to beware of such animals in human
skins. If people are generally good there would have been no need to shield our children from
them
What I do consider criminal in the sense that such teachings perpetrate hate and discrimination
is when we prevent our children from associating with certain people simply because of the
color of their skins or their positions in life. Some parents have elevated money to the position of
God and so will teach their children not to marry outside of their class and prejudiced people of
course will teach their children not to associate with people of certain color and in some areas
in Africa, where more than 90% of us are black people still lecture their children on the wisdom
of not marrying people of a particular clan or ethnic group.
The trainings giving to boys are different from the ones giving to girls. Boys grow up believing it
is ok to do some certain things while girls are brought up to believe doing some things, even if it’
s ok for boys to do them, would bring them to disrepute.
Names are given to some acts as to give the impression that it is ok to do those things while
another name is given to the same act as to give the impression that while it might not be ok to
do those acts it is better if you do it provided you belong to a certain class. Take stealing for
example. When you steal $100 bill you run the risk of being sent to prison but when you
embezzle millions of dollars they might let you off the hook if you return part of the money. When
you are an ordinary man on the street you steal when you are a member of the corporate world
or the government you embezzle.
A woman who goes sleeping around, if she’s poor or from a poor family acts like a prostitute if
rich or from a rich family she’s just a fun loving girl. When a man sleeps around with several
women he is smart or referred to as the real man when a woman sleeps around she’s loose, a
woman of easy virtue. Which brings me to the reason for the write up.
Men have been made to believe that a lady that opens her legs on the first date is not a lady that
one should want to associate with because she’s loose, if she opens her legs on the first that
then she’s a whore. Some men do believe this and act on it some don’t.
A lady’s virtue or otherwise should not be judged on how soon or how late she allows a man to
have sex with her. Women, like men have feelings they are human beings and some of them
are as sexually active as their male counterparts. Sexual indiscretion does not make a woman a
bad woman neither does it make a woman a good woman.
Relationship should be based on love and compatibility any other considerations is the reason
why relationships and marriages fail. When a relationship is based on money if there’s any
misfortune along the way whoever married for money would exit the relationship in no time as
the reason for being in that relationship has been defeated. When a relationship is based on
sex once diminishing returns sets in whoever married or is in a relationship with the other for
that purpose will be gone in a jiffy.
I have met ladies that I had sex with or made love to the first day who ended up keeping the
relationship going because they have qualities that cannot be ignored, qualities that make sex
or love making insignificant. What is the essence of being with a lady who would not allow you
to have sex or make love to her but who have nothing to offer in terms of intelligence, affection or
compassion?
One should not judge a lady based on when she opened her legs there are more to a good lady
than what lies in between her legs as a matter of fact women who have nothing to offer other
than their sexualities are the ones in most cases who would prevent you from having sex with
them because that is the best, and in some cases the only card, they have to offer.
Most of the things, in terms of sex, that we take into consideration to label a woman are what
society puts in our heads make a woman. Waiting forever to have sex is not going to make a
dumb woman smart and having sex on first date is not going to make a smart woman dumb her
brain is in her head her womanhood is between her legs they have no correlation.
Making a man wait forever before giving yourself to him is not going to make him love you if that’
s all he wants from you, once he gets it, no matter how long you made him wait to get it, he
would be gone anyway. Giving yourself to him the first day is not going to make him leave if in
fact he really feels like you have some value that he admires.
Am I saying women should be promiscuous, of course not, not because it is bad in my view but
because of the diseases ravaging the human society. If for the purpose of not coming down with
some STD a woman is careful that is to be commended. However that should not be twisted as
making one woman better and another worse. If you can have sex with her the first day then she’
s not worse than you after all it takes two to tangle.
Another notion that I find quite amusing is when women say they want to know a man better
before giving in to him, how would you know him better when you can only know what he wants
you to know?
I have read story and I have seen people who sleep and went places with some women
pretending to be single when indeed they are married. Deception is not a game played by men
only; there was an incident of a friend of mine who got married to his heartthrob only to discover
there was no marriage at all because his “spouse” was still married to another man. This is not
a story of a woman who took out divorce which she was under the erroneous impression had
been granted, this is a woman who got married knowing that she was still married to another
man.
In conclusion, we should stop deceiving ourselves that a woman who was reluctant to open her
legs for a man is a better woman; a woman’s worth is in whom she really is not what is
between her legs.
Michael Ewetuga
When we were born we did not have any contaminated ideas in our heads, according to one of
my lecturers when I was in the university, our minds as babies are “Tabula Rasa”. It doesn’t
matter the color of a baby when you carry them they will smile at you because at that point they
are yet to be told that one color is superior to another or that one race is superior to another or
that one parent is poor or rich or one country more powerful than the other. I guess that is why
Jesus said for us to see the kingdom of God we must be like little children.
As we grow older our parents, brothers, sisters et al will lecture us as to why we should not play
with A or enter the house of B or be free with C. I will not go as much as to say this is baseless
because some human beings are animals. Which parent in his right mind will allow his child to
enter the house of a rapist or a pedophile or a drug addict? Sometimes some of the things
taught to children about certain people are to protect them from sexual predators or people who
could make a mess of their lives by merely associating with them.
There are rules when one is living in this world so as to keep one save from dangerous people,
I don’t see anything wrong in teaching one’s children to beware of such animals in human
skins. If people are generally good there would have been no need to shield our children from
them
What I do consider criminal in the sense that such teachings perpetrate hate and discrimination
is when we prevent our children from associating with certain people simply because of the
color of their skins or their positions in life. Some parents have elevated money to the position of
God and so will teach their children not to marry outside of their class and prejudiced people of
course will teach their children not to associate with people of certain color and in some areas
in Africa, where more than 90% of us are black people still lecture their children on the wisdom
of not marrying people of a particular clan or ethnic group.
The trainings giving to boys are different from the ones giving to girls. Boys grow up believing it
is ok to do some certain things while girls are brought up to believe doing some things, even if it’
s ok for boys to do them, would bring them to disrepute.
Names are given to some acts as to give the impression that it is ok to do those things while
another name is given to the same act as to give the impression that while it might not be ok to
do those acts it is better if you do it provided you belong to a certain class. Take stealing for
example. When you steal $100 bill you run the risk of being sent to prison but when you
embezzle millions of dollars they might let you off the hook if you return part of the money. When
you are an ordinary man on the street you steal when you are a member of the corporate world
or the government you embezzle.
A woman who goes sleeping around, if she’s poor or from a poor family acts like a prostitute if
rich or from a rich family she’s just a fun loving girl. When a man sleeps around with several
women he is smart or referred to as the real man when a woman sleeps around she’s loose, a
woman of easy virtue. Which brings me to the reason for the write up.
Men have been made to believe that a lady that opens her legs on the first date is not a lady that
one should want to associate with because she’s loose, if she opens her legs on the first that
then she’s a whore. Some men do believe this and act on it some don’t.
A lady’s virtue or otherwise should not be judged on how soon or how late she allows a man to
have sex with her. Women, like men have feelings they are human beings and some of them
are as sexually active as their male counterparts. Sexual indiscretion does not make a woman a
bad woman neither does it make a woman a good woman.
Relationship should be based on love and compatibility any other considerations is the reason
why relationships and marriages fail. When a relationship is based on money if there’s any
misfortune along the way whoever married for money would exit the relationship in no time as
the reason for being in that relationship has been defeated. When a relationship is based on
sex once diminishing returns sets in whoever married or is in a relationship with the other for
that purpose will be gone in a jiffy.
I have met ladies that I had sex with or made love to the first day who ended up keeping the
relationship going because they have qualities that cannot be ignored, qualities that make sex
or love making insignificant. What is the essence of being with a lady who would not allow you
to have sex or make love to her but who have nothing to offer in terms of intelligence, affection or
compassion?
One should not judge a lady based on when she opened her legs there are more to a good lady
than what lies in between her legs as a matter of fact women who have nothing to offer other
than their sexualities are the ones in most cases who would prevent you from having sex with
them because that is the best, and in some cases the only card, they have to offer.
Most of the things, in terms of sex, that we take into consideration to label a woman are what
society puts in our heads make a woman. Waiting forever to have sex is not going to make a
dumb woman smart and having sex on first date is not going to make a smart woman dumb her
brain is in her head her womanhood is between her legs they have no correlation.
Making a man wait forever before giving yourself to him is not going to make him love you if that’
s all he wants from you, once he gets it, no matter how long you made him wait to get it, he
would be gone anyway. Giving yourself to him the first day is not going to make him leave if in
fact he really feels like you have some value that he admires.
Am I saying women should be promiscuous, of course not, not because it is bad in my view but
because of the diseases ravaging the human society. If for the purpose of not coming down with
some STD a woman is careful that is to be commended. However that should not be twisted as
making one woman better and another worse. If you can have sex with her the first day then she’
s not worse than you after all it takes two to tangle.
Another notion that I find quite amusing is when women say they want to know a man better
before giving in to him, how would you know him better when you can only know what he wants
you to know?
I have read story and I have seen people who sleep and went places with some women
pretending to be single when indeed they are married. Deception is not a game played by men
only; there was an incident of a friend of mine who got married to his heartthrob only to discover
there was no marriage at all because his “spouse” was still married to another man. This is not
a story of a woman who took out divorce which she was under the erroneous impression had
been granted, this is a woman who got married knowing that she was still married to another
man.
In conclusion, we should stop deceiving ourselves that a woman who was reluctant to open her
legs for a man is a better woman; a woman’s worth is in whom she really is not what is
between her legs.